Isn’t this photo a hoot? For the record, the photo is definitely posed and was taken after the ceremony – and I love it! It defines the relationship I had with the bride and groom and the happy working relationship we shared.
As a person who also appreciates excellent photography, I like to think I know when to step out of the way for your photographs. Definitely when you are saying your vows to each other, exchanging rings and going in for the big kiss …. but what about the rest of the time? Where do you think a celebrant should stand? And are we photo-bombing, just by being in your photos?
Here’s what I think.
There are so many photo ops on your wedding day – getting ready, arriving, during the ceremony (getting married!), after the ceremony, photos with family, photos with bridal party, photos of just the two of you, photos at the reception … the list is huge! So which one stands out? Naturally for me, it’s getting married. For without the ceremony itself, your gathering really is just a big party.
When I first became a celebrant, I once asked a photographer friend of mine – am I in the way during the ceremony and where would he prefer I stand, so I am out of the way as much as possible? He said “Lisa, it is perfectly natural for you to be in the photos – you are the reason these two people are able to be married today.” I loved his response. Not because I want to be in all your photos but because it validates my part in your day.
Of course, every celebrant is different and some have good reasons as to where they stand and why for different parts of the ceremony. But photo-bombing ‘the kiss’ is unforgivable in my eyes and just plain silly. It’s as bad as wearing clothes that clash with the bridal party – it just shouldn’t be done! I always make a point of blending in or matching a colour scheme on request, but I’ve seen some clothing choices that are shocking and have completely ruined the ceremony photos.
In closing, there are many opportunities to have photos with just the two of you, but you cannot repeat the ceremony. So my advice is to enjoy your ceremony and enjoy your celebrant – after all, we are the reason you are married!